I will be honest, somehow I lucked out with adopting Maria. She is an amazing, sweet girl who was greatly loved in her orphanage. No, it wasn't the same as having a family...but she did have adults there who cared for her, they still care for her and love her. I have not gone through power struggles or manipulation like many families have had to deal with.....I have not seen an adoptive parent's worst nightmare of RAD (I know several families who have children with RAD, who are wonderful with them). Because Maria has fit so well and hasn't really grieved, I have had those expected experiences. I haven't had to seek additional help for adjusting or give difficult consequences due to behaviors...seriously the worst consequence Maria gets is an early bedtime or missing out on an activity as a natural consequence.
But there is another side to older child adoption....one that isn't so happy. A friend who is a single mom is in need of help. She is a first time mom to a 12 year old adopted 5 months ago. This child is wanted, but is struggling to adjust. The mom has tried everything recommended to her and nothing is helping her daughter. Just recently I learned how bad the situation is....out of respect I'm not going to share the details. Doctors and therapist in this family's life have recommended a very specific and intensive therapeutic treatment. Sadly this treatment is most likely not going to be covered by insurance. The mom has set up a site to raise part of the funds needed to make sure the daughter that she loves and has fought for will finally get the emotional healing that she needs. Please consider helping them
http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/funding-for-therapy
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